7 Reasons Why Being Single Isn't So Bad

Being single is probably the most difficult thing for many people.  In the constant search for our suitable life-long partner to stay through thick & thin times with us in our lives - never was an easy task & also requires lots of investment into the time taken. Most importantly, we should bear in mind not to rush over these matters into our own hands but allow nature to take its course.  

As Oscar Wilde once said: “I think it is very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person”.

There are 7 things on why it is okay to be single that I like to mention in this post, and I hope it will give you a better & broader perspective on being single.  

1.       Independence

You will start to take care of yourself better because you do not want your family & friends to be worried about you. Be it – you only became single recently or have been throughout your whole life, you would never like the feeling of having to always burden someone’s life with your own problems. This is the time where you will spend the effort to start understanding more about yourself & also realize that you can do anything by yourself and you don’t need anyone else. 

2.       Get to know yourself better

Sure you know about your name, height, age and where were you born. But these things does not equate to you truly knowing & understanding yourself. Learning who you are is about recognizing and realizing your own interests, goals, belief & the principles you uphold as a person. The interests, goals, beliefs and principles you have cannot be influenced or persuaded by any particular person. It must come truly from your heart & mind. This will be the moment where you start to lead a more meaningful life with goals to head towards to. And trust me, be it you're attached or single will never matter to you again.  

3.      Your freedom

Everyone loves freedom, right? The amount of freedom you have grows proportionately with your age. This is true to a certain extent if you still remain single in your twenties. But this is quite unlikely - as there will be a high possibility or chance that you would be attached in your twenties. In every relationship, there are strings attached and responsibilities to be taken care of. So trust me, while you’re still single before 20 years old. There’s nothing bad and to be sad about. Instead, I believe you have noticed the advantage you have over others in there. 

4.      Your confidence level will only grow

I believe being in a healthy relationship can bring confidence to people. However, this is true for singles as well. Let me explain myself here. There are various reasons to why some people are single – It could be some have chosen to be single or others have just yet to meet their right ones. It does not matter at all. When you’re single, you can take the time and chance to develop your skills, to make progress in your career and as well as, improving on your own overall traits. All of these help to build up your confidence level. I would like to remind everyone NOT TO MEASURE your confidence level with your looks. If not, you are going to have a very negative outlook on life. Instead, be proud of it as you are born with it. 

5.     You will realize who your true friends are

When people have just come out from their relationship, I believe this point would resonate very well with them. For people who have never stepped into a relationship before, this may seem a little indistinct to you. I believe many people know what I am going to say with this point. It is times like these where you feel most vulnerable, heartbroken and disappointed from events such as break-ups – you will start to notice who are your true friends that will always be there for you and to share the pain and suffering with you. Treasure this group of friends as they are the ones that makes you realize how blessed and happy you can be from being single. 

6.      It keeps your options open

When you are single, you have all the time to consider all the options that are available at hands. This includes on what you really want and as well as, your aspirations for the future. You’ll never find the perfect guy at first, but after much re-considerations and concerns that are being taken care of – you will find the perfect one. Remember, never to date someone just to pass time. Look at all possible angles and consider all options when it comes to finding the right one for yourself. 

7.                You will love yourself more

You know the only person who will always be there for you, is yourself. The more time you have for yourself, the more focus you will be on yourself and eventually start to realize how to have your own back. There is the oft-quoted example of which, “If you don’t love yourself, no one will”. After all, the best relationship you can have is with yourself.