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23 years old. Pursuing Public Policy and Global Affairs in School Of Social Sciences at Nanyang Technological University. Thank you for the taking the time to visit and read some of my posts. I hope that you will be able to take away some insights and perspectives on various topics discussed within my space at the end of the day. I will continue to pen down my thoughts as it has always been my pleasure to do so. Any feedback are warmly welcome and can be reached me through the contact form.

Sunday, May 29, 2016

5 Why's The Longer You're Single Makes You A Better Partner



Looking around at our surroundings, one by one getting attached as time passes, can be rather discouraging. However, is that really the case? I can guarantee you that this wasn't the case at all as I was also in a similar predicament as you.

Here's 5 Why's that will change the perception on being single.  

1) Prepares you mentally which increases the chances! 


You have all the freedom to sort out the things that you love and want to do. Having said so, you also have all the time to prepare your emotions and mental state before committing to a relationship. Just like examinations, the better you prep for it, the higher chances to succeed! 


2) You will be less bitter about your past


The less affection you have towards your past relationship helps you to make better judgements and decisions. You will also be less insecure with your emotions which work a relationship out better! Most importantly, you will be able to start afresh! 


3) You have not met the right person


In other words, you're picky. However, that isn't a bad thing either. You just want to make sure you meet someone whom you're comfortable and right for you before committing. 


4) You will get to know yourself better


Be it you're either just out of a relationship or been single for a long time, you will definitely grow to understand yourself better during your single time. You will know what you're looking for and that will make you a better lover in time to come! 

5) You will be more independent


By growing to be more independent will mean being more responsible to yourself and your partner. That will make your partner more rest assured of your well-being and a healthy relationship can be better worked out! Lastly, you will learn to love yourself! 

Saturday, May 14, 2016

8 Things That Men ❤️ In Women


It’s never always about the appearance. Although it is undeniably true that people always first notice on the physical side of others, but that's perfectly alright. Whilst that may hold true to many, it is no surprise that appearance becomes the last and counts the least in the list, when it comes to deciding settling down with that person. I am sure you know it as well! You can even ask your boyfriend about it, and I am sure your boyfriend can list much more than just appearance about you. It’s an interesting discovery. 

1) Be a good listener


Just as how you would like to show care and concern for the people around you - hearing out about their problems and reassuring them right afterwards - it is no different in a relationship. Your boyfriends might face unhappiness at work or stress over some issues at times. This might or might not surprise you, just by listening to what he has to say - makes him feel that you're able to share the emotions and load at that juncture, making him feel blessed to have you around all the time! 

2) Be kind and appreciative


How would you not love someone who is kind and helpful towards others? Those traits are just simply irresistible to anyone. I am sure that most of the women in this universe will also want guys who are kind, helpful and gentle. 


3) Be spontaneous


You don't have to be spontaneous 24 hours round the clock. I admit that it's not easy to remain that way at times. The idea is to try something new and out of your comfort zone, sing out loud even if it sounds awful, dance around and scream for joy when surprises are thrown at you. This will brighten the atmosphere and as well as, who knows it may rekindle the spark between the both of you! 


4) A good cook


As cliche as it may sounds, "the way to your men's heart is through his stomach" still holds true if you ask me. Don't get me wrong, you don't have to be an excellent chef or anything, so long as you are willing to learn or even cook something, your boyfriend's heart will totally be captured by your efforts.


5) Humor


When it comes to settling down, humor is definitely in my list. Isn't it just great to have someone whom can brighten up your day from time to time? Be it silly or wise humor, they are still awesome! More than just jokes, I feel that humorous couples would also be able to find positivity in all situations, just like how every cloud would have a silver lining. 


6) Able to take care of herself


Not necessarily that all men love women to be independent totally. There are still things which boyfriends feel that their girlfriends should confide in them. I am sure that majority of the women are able to take care of themselves and this is a plus point to many men. You give men the assurance to pursue their career without worries, but of course - that does not mean that men would stop thinking about you once you're able to take care of yourself - in fact, you will forever be on their mind! 

7) Being confident in being natural


Your boyfriend may not understand all of your insecurities. If there is one thing that I like to share would be to be natural and I am sure you boyfriend will love you for that. No matter how imperfect you feel you are, your boyfriend will feel otherwise - you are always perfect in his eyes - so remember it! Your confidence is all that matters to him.

8) Motherly Instinct 


It's a definite must for guys whom want to settle down. I am sure that all the guys will agree with me! He will want someone whom is able to take care of him, and in return, he takes care of you too. This will also allow the guys to feel rest assured whenever their kids are in your hands. 


Now that you know what are some of the things that men love in women, there are indeed some resemblance in the points mentioned above for women too when it comes to looking for men! 

Saturday, May 7, 2016

Ask These Questions To Feel Closer To Your Partner


There will always be instances when you feel uncertainties in your relationship as you go forward. If that happens, do not ever allow your uncertainties to guide or form on your following thoughts. Always clarify your doubts with the other partner before making undesired decisions. As you can never be certain on how the other partner thinks until you witnessed it yourself. Last but just as important, never allow your pride to refrain asking questions which you think are foolish, because there will never be questions that bears ignorance in love.   


1.       What was your first impression of me?

You may be surprised at what your partner has got to say. It can be quite an interesting conversation with many truths unfolded between you and your partner. Most importantly, don't get too affected or allow it to cast a shadow on your current situation if the truths get too unpleasant. Just have fun and work forward together from the process.


2.       What worries you the most?

Ask your partner about this because you may find out some of their deep secrets which your partner has never talked about it before. This may help you to understand your partner, in his or her considerations and thoughts at certain occasions much better.


3.       What do you envisage in the future?

Find out what your partner wants or seek for in the future. Ask him anything from marriage to career. It will help you to see what are his priorities for the relationship. 


4.       What's one thing that made you guilty?

By asking what makes them most guilty, it helps you to reassure the the personality of your partner once again. It's always good to be informed of their limits so that you won't unnecessary align them in any difficult positions. 


5.   What are you most proud about? 


Who knows that you might find out something startling that you haven't know of it. From conversations on a daily basis, how likely is your partner to boast? 


6.   How was it like to woo / being chased by me? 

Your experience may differs from your partner's one since everyone experiences the world differently. How has your partner perceived it? Share with each other your point of view and you will definitely be bound to find out things that you do not remember. Who knows it might rekindle the spark in both once again.