8 Things That Men ❤️ In Women

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It’s never always about the appearance. Although it is undeniably true that people always first notice on the physical side of others, but that's perfectly alright. Whilst that may hold true to many, it is no surprise that appearance becomes the last and counts the least in the list, when it comes to deciding settling down with that person. I am sure you know it as well! You can even ask your boyfriend about it, and I am sure your boyfriend can list much more than just appearance about you. It’s an interesting discovery. 

1) Be a good listener

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Just as how you would like to show care and concern for the people around you - hearing out about their problems and reassuring them right afterwards - it is no different in a relationship. Your boyfriends might face unhappiness at work or stress over some issues at times. This might or might not surprise you, just by listening to what he has to say - makes him feel that you're able to share the emotions and load at that juncture, making him feel blessed to have you around all the time! 

2) Be kind and appreciative

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How would you not love someone who is kind and helpful towards others? Those traits are just simply irresistible to anyone. I am sure that most of the women in this universe will also want guys who are kind, helpful and gentle. 

3) Be spontaneous

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You don't have to be spontaneous 24 hours round the clock. I admit that it's not easy to remain that way at times. The idea is to try something new and out of your comfort zone, sing out loud even if it sounds awful, dance around and scream for joy when surprises are thrown at you. This will brighten the atmosphere and as well as, who knows it may rekindle the spark between the both of you! 

4) A good cook

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As cliche as it may sounds, "the way to your men's heart is through his stomach" still holds true if you ask me. Don't get me wrong, you don't have to be an excellent chef or anything, so long as you are willing to learn or even cook something, your boyfriend's heart will totally be captured by your efforts.

5) Humor

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When it comes to settling down, humor is definitely in my list. Isn't it just great to have someone whom can brighten up your day from time to time? Be it silly or wise humor, they are still awesome! More than just jokes, I feel that humorous couples would also be able to find positivity in all situations, just like how every cloud would have a silver lining. 

6) Able to take care of herself

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Not necessarily that all men love women to be independent totally. There are still things which boyfriends feel that their girlfriends should confide in them. I am sure that majority of the women are able to take care of themselves and this is a plus point to many men. You give men the assurance to pursue their career without worries, but of course - that does not mean that men would stop thinking about you once you're able to take care of yourself - in fact, you will forever be on their mind! 

7) Being confident in being natural

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Your boyfriend may not understand all of your insecurities. If there is one thing that I like to share would be to be natural and I am sure you boyfriend will love you for that. No matter how imperfect you feel you are, your boyfriend will feel otherwise - you are always perfect in his eyes - so remember it! Your confidence is all that matters to him.

8) Motherly Instinct 

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It's a definite must for guys whom want to settle down. I am sure that all the guys will agree with me! He will want someone whom is able to take care of him, and in return, he takes care of you too. This will also allow the guys to feel rest assured whenever their kids are in your hands. 

Now that you know what are some of the things that men love in women, there are indeed some resemblance in the points mentioned above for women too when it comes to looking for men! 

Ask These Questions To Feel Closer To Your Partner

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There will always be instances when you feel uncertainties in your relationship as you go forward. If that happens, do not ever allow your uncertainties to guide or form on your following thoughts. Always clarify your doubts with the other partner before making undesired decisions. As you can never be certain on how the other partner thinks until you witnessed it yourself. Last but just as important, never allow your pride to refrain asking questions which you think are foolish, because there will never be questions that bears ignorance in love.   

1.       What was your first impression of me?

You may be surprised at what your partner has got to say. It can be quite an interesting conversation with many truths unfolded between you and your partner. Most importantly, don't get too affected or allow it to cast a shadow on your current situation if the truths get too unpleasant. Just have fun and work forward together from the process.

2.       What worries you the most?

Ask your partner about this because you may find out some of their deep secrets which your partner has never talked about it before. This may help you to understand your partner, in his or her considerations and thoughts at certain occasions much better.

3.       What do you envisage in the future?

Find out what your partner wants or seek for in the future. Ask him anything from marriage to career. It will help you to see what are his priorities for the relationship. 

4.       What's one thing that made you guilty?

By asking what makes them most guilty, it helps you to reassure the the personality of your partner once again. It's always good to be informed of their limits so that you won't unnecessary align them in any difficult positions. 

5.   What are you most proud about? 

Who knows that you might find out something startling that you haven't know of it. From conversations on a daily basis, how likely is your partner to boast? 

6.   How was it like to woo / being chased by me? 

Your experience may differs from your partner's one since everyone experiences the world differently. How has your partner perceived it? Share with each other your point of view and you will definitely be bound to find out things that you do not remember. Who knows it might rekindle the spark in both once again. 

The Journey To Officership: Week 13 to 18

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Good morning people! So happy to be back in this piece of land where I am proud to call it as home! So where have I been? Yes, it's BRUNEIII ! Finally, I have got the time to write up after been busy for quite some time. It's been weeks since I last updated my blog, part of the reason was also the contemplation on how to continue writing on my journey in OCS as I am bounded with so many restricted information now.

Just to update everyone, I have been posted to COMBAT ENGINEERS (SCE) as of 060116. I was delighted to receive the news as infantry never had much inclination to me. Yes, maybe "chiong sua" just is not my forte. As much as I would like to share the things I learnt or did inside combat engineers, the information is restricted and confidential unfortunately. 

So, I figured out that it will be plain boring and dry to read my OCS journey anymore as it lacks the juicy and dramatic experience or information that I can share. Filled with sadness, I have to say that I will not be able to update my journey as often as before. I will share the things which I am able to from time to time. Meanwhile, no news can be a good thing at times! Haha. 

2015 | Be appreciative, purposeful and loving

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2015 has been an eventful year filled with bitterness, surprises and joy for myself. Was it a good year for me? I felt that overall it was. Just like anyone who lives on this planet, we face conundrums or setbacks that may bring us down, but as long as we remind ourselves that problems never come alone. Every conundrum is accompanied with an opportunity for us to grow into better people. Lastly, tell it to yourself, It's just part and parcel of life. 

If there are 3 takeaways that I would want my readers to have in this post would be to appreciate the people around you, constantly remind yourself of your life purpose and last but just as important, to be loving towards the people around you. 

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2nd January 2016,

More often than not, we are being inserted into situations where we least expect it, making us feeling uncomfortable and depressed about it. Have we ever thought to ourselves that some of these situations was the results of our actions?  Many people would say that they can change the outcome of these situations if an opportunity to go back in time was given. How true and easy will it be? Ask yourself, would you have the sufficient benevolence lacked in the past to make it up to make the change and the courage to let go some of the feelings now? If your answer is a yes, then I believe you are ready to make that change.

Now, as I reflect upon my year 2015, I would like to touch on my first point - to appreciate the people around you. I vividly remembered the friends - primary, secondary, polytechnic and army - that have been through thin and thick with me for the past few years, if not, the past few months. Be it what were the events that connected us together - group projects, gatherings, work. I want to sincerely thank you all for the efforts placed to work with me, for I know that I am not an easy person to work or deal with at times. Thank you for your kind patience. If there is ever another chance to work with you all, I would love to be more vocalize in my thoughts process. 

As I progress along year 2015, I learnt that appreciation can come in two forms - vocal and actions. There will be one group of people that would thank people through words while the other, would find ways to appreciate what you have done through actions. In any case, I feel that I belong to the latter one. It does takes some time for one to learn that I do appreciate what you have done for me at times. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

Moving on to my second point - to constantly remind yourself of your life purpose. Enrollment into national service in year 2015 was one thing I dreaded the most despite being clearly aware of the importance. Perhaps, it was the loss of freedom which I cannot get used to it at that point of July 2015. Training was more of mental strenuous than physical as without a clear drive or motivation during the first few weeks. I asked myself, "What is it that I want or hope to see on the planet I live in?" The answer was, "To make a positive change in peoples' lives". Then, I looked at how unmotivated and dejected I was during that point of time, I knew I could change nothing unless I started with myself first. So, with the change in outlook and perspective on my loss of freedom, I started to be more optimistic during training and it's true, everything was much more enjoyable - the nonsense you talked with friends, the buddies you have made and the knowledge you have learnt. 

So, always have a clear purpose in life. I lost it during my enlistment into national service, but I am glad I found it back. If you want to make changes, you will need two powerful tools: power and knowledge. Power can make things happen alone but may not be for a better cause. Knowledge can help you conceive a better solution to conundrums in the world alone but your ideas might never happen or be heard. Henceforth, power and knowledge together when used in the best way possible can create extraordinary outcomes. 

Moving on to my last but just as important point - to be loving towards the people around you. Time is never enough and it was so god true when I enlisted into national service. Just like the saying goes, "you never know the value of what you have till you lose it". This always happens to us. Now, with the back of your mind aware of how limited time can be, isn't it important that we show love to our loved ones and friends? We may have forgotten to show love for our family in the year 2015 due to hectic schedule, but now is the start of a new beginning - the year 2016 - we should or can start to be more loving. 

Wishing everyone a blessed 2016 ahead, may all of your goals and dreams come true! 

- Benjamin Ang

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The Journey To Officership: Week 11 & 12 | Social Night

Taken on 23/12/15 BRAVO Social Night

Bravo Platoon 2 on the stage

Hey ya everyone! I'm so delighted to write up this blog post because it's something less dry and much more fun in it! I thank my readers for putting up with me on the less interesting contents over the past 10 weeks! As the saying goes, "After the bitter comes the sweet". You have finally reached the sweet part of my OCS journey! Applause! Hahaha

It's one event that every cadet looks forward to. A night where every cadet is caught beaming with excitement, happiness and pride. Simply because we have fought so hard over the past 10 weeks for this night! It's a great blessing for being able to bring either one of your closest friend or loved ones to witness this milestone of your journey. We're sincerely thankful for the opportunity. Therefore, I would like to take this chance to thank my dear, Kit, for making my social night a memorable and meaningful one!

Date: 23/12/2015

Venue: Officer Cadets' Mess

Time: 1830 hrs - 2230 hrs

Dress Code: No. 2

So what was my preparation for this social night? Here it is!

Booked out at approximately 1200 hrs and got a lift to Bukit Panjang to purchase flowers for the night! Believe me, I was contemplating so hard on how many roses to get: nine or twelve. After much hesitation and persuasion by the auntie, I went with nine roses. As the chinese saying goes, “长长久久“, henceforth I wish that everything will last for a long long time. Not really a superstitious guy over here, however since social night is a meaningful night for everyone, so why not give something that holds a meaningful message behind it? Hahaha. 

Thereafter, reached my girlfriend's house via a cab at around 1400 hrs but was an hour late. Opps! We had spent quite some time purchasing our flowers as the auntie was already busy with other orders and initially, she was also hesitant to take our orders. Nonetheless, she decided to help us! :D It's all our fault for being late due to the poor planning. :P Had lunch with her family and started the preparation from 1500 hrs to 1730 hrs. It's a mad rush, I swear! My dad then fetched me and my girlfriend to SAFTI for the social night! 

Okay, I know perhaps it's a boring preparation up there. HAHAHA

Maybe I should just let pictures to express the joy and excitement filled within the social night itself! 

My Wonderful Section! 

2nd from the bottom left (Section Instructor)

Section Swag Shot!

She gave me flowers! 

My dearest! 

Special thanks to my friend, Mike, for the photo booth! It was amazing!

Okay this is all! I thought I have taken quite a few photos last night but it turned out otherwise. :P On top of just socializing, there was also programmes such as magic shows, platoon performances and games! In essence, it's just a night specially set for us to commemorate our hard work! Thankful for everyone in my platoon! Let's advance into Professional term together! 

- Wonderful memories created